This post is mostly for girls--but it's a good read for guys too, to understand and gain perspective on the opposite sex.
This weekend, I've been inspired by four of my girlfriends, all for different reasons and all because of different opportunities. And now I am inspired to share with you why girlfriends, for us chicas, are so important.
Five years ago, I would never have written this. Maybe not even three years ago, and most definitely not ten years ago.
Girls--we need girlfriends.
We need ladies who will uplift us, understand us, spread joy with us, experience pain with us, and who are real with us.
As ladies, we are emotional creatures. I think by nature we crave and desire closeness with other women, but we deny it, because we've had bad experiences (at least this is true for me).
I do want to talk about why us girls need other girls in our lives who are positive, uplifting influences. We need friends who will listen to us when we meet the guy of our dreams, or when he breaks our hearts, or when we succeed, when we fail, when we put our foot in our mouths, or when we get a promotion, a raise, lose those last 5 pounds, whatever!
Whatever time frame ago, I would have told you that:
"I get along better with guys"
"Men are less dramatic"
"Guys say what they mean and there's no backstabbing"
Etc, etc, ladies do you relate? Have you ever questioned why you need to have girlfriends?
I'm was once with you. But...we do. We need good girls in our lives. Not the backstabbing ones (and yes, they are out there), not the ones who create drama every single day (and there are those). But we need girls in our lives that will accept us, ask us good questions, listen to our answers, correct us when needed, and praise us even more when we do something right.
Ladies, we are meant to live abundant lives. We are meant to have significance. We are meant to do great things.
Yes, you.
Sometimes we need mentorship/coaching/a helpful eye to help us move forward. Sometimes we need to be the one who lends those gifts to another. We need each other.
I just got off the phone with my best friend from college. I live in MD, she lives in PA. We see each other about once a year (and it takes effort). We have what we jokingly call a voicemail relationship. We leave each other voicemails at least every other week and it's rare that we actually catch each other on the phone. Today we did! She said she was going to call at random times, until we got on the phone. It worked! We talked for 18-minutes, catching up on life. Nothing dramatic, nothing outlandish, just life. I was uplifted just by talking with my friend who knows more about me than most, and still loves me (and vice versa).
Yesterday, I met two wonderful friends for lunch. We sat, talked, and ate for over two-and-a-half hours....it was wonderful. We talked about every part of life you could think of: dreams, goals, family, kids, the future, the present. They both asked me questions, and didn't judge the answers (and vice versa). We talked, and we accepted each other. I was struck at the end of our time together how precious this is. We all three comes from different backgrounds and have different life experiences, but we loved on each other and want the best for each other. All of us need friends like this.
On Friday and Saturday, I got to spend time with my mentor and one of my best friends. On Friday night, we were waiting on some other people to show up at the house for a movie and so we decided to dye our hair (put 2 spontaneous chicks together and that's what happens!)
We had fun just living free and both dying our hair "raspberry creme." Our results turned out totally different (she's blond and I'm dark brunette). Let's just say one of us is burgundy and the other is bright bright red :-) We had so much fun just playing and watching each others hair get redder and redder as the night went on (and into the next day!) We laughed a lot.
The next day we had the privledge to get behind some closed doors to hear teaching from a life coach and entrepreneurial powerhouse, who has positively impacted us both, related to the business & life we both pursue (we are in the business of making people's lives better through opportunity).
My girlfriend has been married over 20 years and has 4 amazing kids. I'm single with no kids. Yet, we are kindred spirits. We have different circumstances, but our hearts and passions for people and the impact we can make are similar.
We both were impacted and experienced a level of peace that was specific to our circumstances and goals. My brothers were there too, and they were peacefully & positively impacted.
But, I was able to have an understanding with my coach and closest friend, because we understand each others heartbeat. Because we were there together, experiencing the same thing (with a different perspective) our relationship grows. Everytime. Sometimes you don't have to even speak about it. You can look at your closest friends and see their heart. It's beautiful; and women, trust me, we all need to experience it.
Friday we played and had fun. Saturday we seeked out information; found it and, we experienced it together. Ladies, there's no greater journey than to lock arms with other women who believe in what you do, who seek the peace, understanding and knowledge that you do, and who want to move forward with you, through life--whether in joy or in pain.
Bottom line--girls--seek out other women who have similar goals to you--or who love you no matter how many successes you have or mistakes you make. Find the real ones. Find other women who have a passion for making others lives better.
Girls, truly, we need each other.
In health & prosperity,
Monica
